For those who have lost a loved one, the holidays can be an especially difficult season. In August 2020, devastating news was shared regarding Frank Ocean’s brother Ryan Breaux, 18, who died in a car crash in Thousand Oaks, California. The tragedy was understandably heartbreaking for Ocean’s family, and the singer’s mother wrote a social media post asking people not to send her holiday greetings.

While Tonya Breaux is grateful to her friends, family and supporters, she wanted them to know that not everyone is feeling so happy this time of year.

“I am so grateful to the people who love me,” she wrote. “So incredibly grateful. I just have one request. Please refrain from texting or texting me Merry this or Happy that. Maybe next year, but not this year .I know you wanna show love but when I look at my phone and see 50 messages like this it’s just more trigger than helpful. So instead send love across the universes . “

“I will feel it. Promised. Thanks in advance. [praying hands emoji][blue heart emoji]. Although she did not explicitly state that it was about the loss of her son, a new wave of wishes for happiness has overtaken the deadlines. Read more below.